Comments on: Can We Break Free of the Perfection Prison?

By: The Beauty in the Breakdown | Drinking to Distraction

The Beauty in the Breakdown | Drinking to Distraction — Mon, 16 Dec 2013 15:57:54 +0000

[…] medication, and where I’ve been lately, Practicing imperfection, or the most popular one ever, Can we break free of the perfection prison?, something different […]

By: That Elusive Middle Ground | Drinking to Distraction

That Elusive Middle Ground | Drinking to Distraction — Wed, 26 Jun 2013 20:03:42 +0000

[…] area where I vacillate between extremes is in expressing myself. As I have mentioned before, I have a tendency to bottle up my emotions and then explode. This feels like a balloon taking on […]

By: whinelessinwashington

whinelessinwashington — Wed, 29 May 2013 14:09:56 +0000

Wouldn’t that be perfect! I’m totally on I think you’re right, or not the only ones!!!!!!’

By: drinkingtodistraction

drinkingtodistraction — Tue, 28 May 2013 14:59:15 +0000

I am with you on the judgity judge judge front. Unfortunately it’s not such a far leap to judge others for me when I’m judging myself so harshly. At the same time, I don’t have to be perfectly non-judgmental all at once. I’m trying to remember it when I can, notice it as much as possible, and gently let go of all that noise! Thank you for your comment!

By: drinkingtodistraction

drinkingtodistraction — Tue, 28 May 2013 14:57:05 +0000

Thanks Mikel!

By: drinkingtodistraction

drinkingtodistraction — Tue, 28 May 2013 14:56:38 +0000

I think we are not the only ones who suffer from the perfection or nothing paradox. I wish there were support groups for perfect-aholics. Maybe we can create one ourselves?!

By: therobynbirdsnest

therobynbirdsnest — Tue, 28 May 2013 00:41:32 +0000

This sentence is like a baseball bat to the head: But the watcher and judger is ME.
My teenage daughter jokingly says, “judgity judge judge.” And I almost never judge her…but always, always myself. What was I taught? What am I teaching? We all need to make a safe place to really be so we can learn to tune out our internal judge.
Thank you for this post from the bottom of my heart!

By: Have You Been Helped? | Drinking to Distraction

Have You Been Helped? | Drinking to Distraction — Wed, 22 May 2013 13:07:45 +0000

[…] The ubiquity of the advice to ask for help caught me by surprise. (Sort of like that ‘w’ in the word answer. Really? Was that always there?) Why does asking for help seem counterintuitive? Why is it so difficult? I can only surmise that my resistance stems from my fear of appearing foolish, a wish to have my proverbial shit together (or at least seem to), and my striving for perfection. […]

By: Mikel O'Brien

Mikel O'Brien — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 01:16:52 +0000

Oh, one can never care too much about what strangers think, let alone what those close to you think! You’ve gotta stand up for yourself and smack some reality right upside the head of those dissenters. With celebrities, they’re easy marks for criticism — and they know it. It creates the publicity they or their publicists crave to get them the next gig — smoke and mirrors, baby! You’ve gotta stay in the realistic world most of us live whose lives don’t depend on publicity. Be a trouper — spread love, kindness, and hugs!! :-)

By: whinelessinwashington

whinelessinwashington — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 18:23:33 +0000

Oh, I relate to so much of this! On a lesser note, I love Anne Hathaway, and had no idea she was ‘hated’! People, get a life! Who cares, really, what’s she’s like? I love her in so many movies, that’s all that matters to me.
But more importantly, the perfection-or-nothing gene. I have that. I have that with writing. It’s SO hard to get through – “I won’t do it well, so why do it at all?” Funny enough, I used to get really mad at my sister, and at the age of 14 or so, my mom took me to a counselor one time. All I remember is that she said, prophetically – “you are a perfectionist!” I laughed. No I wasn’t. My SISTER was the perfectionist. She was neat, tidy, organized – I was not. I was the messy, creative one. She replied, “no, you’re a perfectionist in that you won’t do anything unless you can do it perfectly.” It made no sense to me at the time. It makes all the sense to me now!