Sitting on the Acela train leaving New York City has become a painful experience. I should be quite comfortable: the seats are soft and roomy, the air conditioning prodigious on a steamy July morning, and the speed considerably greater than the Northeast Regional train, which crawls between local stops, if it runs at all. The [...]
Archive for the ‘Dating’ Category
If I Can Make It There…
Posted in Awareness, Dating, tagged Alcoholism, Awareness, change, expectations, fear, living in the moment, love, New York City, progress, recovery, uncertainty on July 27, 2011 | 7 Comments »
Sit. Stay.
Posted in Dating, Meditation, Recovery, tagged Alcohol, Awareness, change, dating, drinking problem, expectations, fear, heartbreak, Law & Order, living in the moment, love, meditation, progress, recovery, restlessness, Shamatha, Susan Piver, uncertainty on February 28, 2011 | 2 Comments »
During the last several years, I’ve become much more aware of the things I used to distract myself from my “stuff.” I’ve removed some – booze, shopping, certain friendships – that hindered awareness of my self and my life. I’ve even managed to cut down on Law & Order reruns! Peeling away those layers, though, [...]
Dating While Sober
Posted in Dating, Recovery, tagged Alcohol, Alcoholism, dating, Homer Simpson, love, recovery on February 9, 2011 | 4 Comments »
Anyone who’s been “out there” knows that dating can be fun and revealing and full of potential as well as frustrating, confusing, and downright hellacious. One thing that seems to make dating possible is the presence of alcohol. In the words of Homer Simpson, To alcohol, the cause of and solution to all of our [...]
When Things Fall Apart
Posted in Dating, Recovery, tagged Alcohol, Alcoholism, Awareness, change, heartbreak, love, recovery, uncertainty, work on February 7, 2011 | 1 Comment »
About a month after I took my last drink, my somewhat confusing outpatient recovery program behind me, things fell apart. I was dating the mechanic/bodybuilder/stand-up comedian who had supported me through this process and I had just started a new job. The job was perfect…on paper. I loved their work, they loved me. The interview [...]
